How can a person resign from a ministry without being deemed a disloyal person?
Leaving a church or ministry (resignation, in other words) is something that happens whether we like it or not. Most of the time people never intend to leave. However, there may be some reasons why resignation occurs. Alas, resignation Is rarely peaceful resignation is rarely done in a cordial atmosphere. Resignation in the church setting usually occurs in the midst of misunderstandings, conflicts, accusations and unhealed wounds.
There are three main reasons why departure or resignation may be biblically necessary:
i. When it comes as an explicit instruction from the Lord.
ii. When there is a major doctrinal deviation in the ministry.
iii. When there is significant and chronic moral deviation.
Why is it important to leave a ministry that is suffering from major doctrinal or moral decay?
That wrong spirit is likely to affect you eventually.
If you have to resign, there are certain standards of behavior expected of you before, during, and after your resignation. How you go about your departure will show everyone whether you are a faithful worker or just another anarchist.
a) Give ample notice of your intentions to leave the ministry or church. Ample notice means at least one year.
b) Resignation must never be a surprise move. If it comes as a surprise, then it is an evil, calculated misdeed.
c) If you must resign, resign alone. Do not try to influence other ministers to leave with you.
d) Do not try to win the hearts of people long before you leave, by making special friends all around and developing close relationships with vital church members. In the end you will leave behind a confused group of members who have to choose between their relationship with you and their commitment to the church. This is another reason why you need to declare your intentions of resignation long beforehand.
e) Be grateful to the church from whence you are departing, and do not spread bad stories about them after you leave
“Whoso rewardeth evil for good, evil shall not depart from his house.
f) Do not “muddy” the waters you have drunk from, leaving behind a group of confused people. By saying evil things about the church you just left, you will “muddy” the waters and prevent others from being trained and blessed by the same ministry which blessed you.
“Seemeth it a small thing unto you to have eaten up the good pasture, but ye must tread down with your feet the residue of your pastures? and to have drunk of the deep waters, but ye must foul the residue with your feet?
This will invite a curse into your life. It cannot possibly be that the church you were trained in has become such an evil place. The reason why most ministers disappear into oblivion after departure from a major ministry is because they bring upon themselves a curse by the manner in which they leave.
g) If you intend to set up a church you must declare your intentions to the senior minister. You must however discourage others from following you.
h) Do not set up a church anywhere within a 10-mile radius from where you used to be.
i) It is improper, cheap, and unethical to establish a church virtually next door to your mother church.
j) It also smacks of the logic of the jungle to use the same or very similar names that are unique to the church or ministry you are leaving.
The new name should in no way give unclear signals and reminders of your recent defection. For instance, if the church you are resigning from is called Angels Harvest and Healing Center International, do not call your new church Angels Salvation and Healing Center International.
k) After departure you must speak well about where you came from. This will give you some credibility.
The Jacob Style
Notice that Jacob resigned from Laban’s ministry in the wrong way. He left unexpectedly. His absence was detected after three days. Jacob almost received a curse for this.
And Jacob stole away unawares to Laban the Syrian, in that he told him not that he fled. So he fled with all that he had; and he rose up, and passed over the river, and set his face toward the mount Gilead. And it was told Laban on the third day that Jacob was fled.
But for God’s intervention, Laban could have spoken a curse on Jacob (Genesis 31:29).
The Moses Style
Observe that Moses on the other hand, left his father-in-law, Jethro’s ministry in the right way. He had been with him for forty years. Notice also that when it mattered many years later, he could receive help from, and relate to Jethro.
And Moses went and returned to Jethro his father in law, and said unto him, Let me go, I pray thee, and return unto my brethren which are in Egypt, and see whether they be yet alive. And Jethro said to Moses, Go in peace.
And Moses went out to meet his father in law... and they asked each other of their welfare; and they came into the tent... And it came to pass on the morrow, that Moses sat to judge the people: and the people stood by Moses from the morning unto the evening. Hearken now unto my [Jethro] voice, I will give thee counsel, and God shall be with thee...
Exodus 18:7, 13, 19
Moses’ method of departure from his ministry in the desert is more ethical. It was followed by blessings many years later. Let us all learn from these lessons. It is always important to know how to behave in the house of God.
...that thou mayest know HOW THOU OUGHTEST TO BEHAVE THYSELF in the house of God...
1 Timothy 3:15